Month: January 2015

I Nominate You!

WHINGE TIME!

Soooo I’m late to the party, but is it just me or is it that every time I log onto Facebook someone is nominating me to do something? The pour ice cubes on your head, the down a pint of utter nonsense, the I’m wearing no makeup but actually am wearing makeup selfie (don’t get me started on selfies)… AND now the latest being share your first profile picture

Whhhhhy do people keep trying to make me do things???

These impulsive group fads always make me think of a bizarre event that happened at school, many moons ago. The fad was called something like ‘100 scratches’, it was all the rage and if you didn’t do it you risked unpopularity of the highest accord! The basic premise was that you had to scratch the bridge of your nose 100 times… Okay so let me say straight away that I didn’t do it and yes I was considered a bit of a loser at the time. At the time the teacher dragged me (and my best matey who I saved from the heathens) to the front of the class and proclaimed that I was the only kid in the class with an ounce of sense. That didn’t help my popularity either, but did help me feel a little better as I was beginning to feel like the last sane person alive! Needless to say my whole class looked like utter numpties, but nevertheless wore there scarred noses with pride for a good few months.

Getting back to the point, I can think of so many reasons not to involve myself in these ridiculous Facebook nominations. Honestly I can’t think of any reasons why I would want to partake in these social media fads; Whatever happened to individuality? I don’t buy into the complete armour-plated argument winner; ‘but its for a good cause’… okaaay so what you’d jump off a cliff for charity? Poke your eyes out? I mean, wheres the line people?

The final word of warning is that this culture is in its nature a very very narcissistic act; read up on the greek myth of Narcissus, it didn’t end well… I guess the modern adaptation would be to walk into traffic whilst taking a selfie!

Right I’m off to cover myself in cellophane and margarine now… why you ask? Well all the cool kids are doing it! I’ll make sure everyone sees pics of what I’ve done, otherwise whats the point?

If a tree falls in the forest, but no-one is there to take a selfie next to it, does it make a sound?

Philly out

Do Opposites Attract?

When it comes to relationships with friends, family and partners, this is a discussion that comes up often I find.

Do opposites attract and does the opposite apply?

For example; I bicker a lot with my sister, (I’m 25 and really should know better)… my mum always says; “you’re too similar for your own good”. Are we? Is that why? Or have we just known each other for a really long time? Is it all just pseudoscience or is there some truth to it?

With friends, I can’t think of many who I would say are insanely similar to myself; about two… Possibly. However I think the similarity in those cases is what makes us click and is why we’re such good mateys.

In the realm of relationships the question that jumps to my mind is should you actively avoid them if the other person is too similar to you? I have always had the other thought in mind, but maybe I’m wrong.

What do we even mean when we say too similar?

Interests?

Someone with a different set of interests could introduce you to a whole world of things you didn’t even know existed. Buuut similar interests are how you get connected to and start conversing with someone in the first place.

Beliefs?

Beliefs is an interesting one. Again differences can be a good thing, introducing the other person to a whole new world (Aladdin is a great film). Bare in mind I don’t just mean solely religious, this category includes political, social, economical and so on…

Aspirations?

This is a big one in relationships in particular, I think your partner has to match you in terms of drive. For friends and family; drive and aspirations is not as important I don’t think.

Personality?

This is the big one, I’m not friends with my own bloody clone, but I bet he’s a proper laugh. Obviously I jest, I’ve actually had experiences that go both ways on this. I had one friend who was the polar opposite to me. I thought he was great and he dragged me out of my comfort zone to my own benefit. In time though it was actually the differences that made us drift apart.

What’s the answer then? Yes differences can be complimentary, but still I have no idea. I think that my pseudoscience shout might be spot on!

Is it just another silly myth like ‘can guys and girls be friends?’ or my ABSOLUTE least favourite ‘the friend zone’, which is just depressing that it exists as a thing. Where’s the evidence?

Anyway waffling over, if you have anything to say on the subject, I’d love to hear a more concise, considered argument.

Philly out